# 1 Secret To Gaining Rock-Solid Conversation Confidence
It’s simple – employ a FROG. Would you believe that the number one secret to making effortless conversation and never being at a loss for words would require you to cozy up to a FROG? It may sound a bit strange, but this number one secret to gaining rock-solid conversation confidence involves employing a FROG.
How much time have you wasted stressing over how to strike up a conversation? You’re not alone. While the need to build strong social connections is at an all-time high, many say they lack the needed skill and confidence.
How often have you felt nervous or tense just thinking about how to start a conversation? Or, maybe while you are chatting with someone there’s a lull in the conversation and you suddenly realize that you’re at a loss for words. Your mind begins racing because you’re not sure what to say next or you begin thinking that you may not be interesting enough to say something clever. This is when that nasty nagging fear starts to seep in and you start worrying that you’re going to make an awful impression on others.
Research indicates that lack of conversation confidence is the biggest roadblock that stops most people from enjoying parties or other social events. It even blocks professionals from making social connections required for career success. If you’re ready to gain rock-solid conversation confidence, pursue your career goals, and enjoy the benefits of strong social connections, it’s time to employ a FROG!
Of all the skills and habits you can learn from successful people, one of the most helpful is the art of conversation confidence. Everyone knows that preparation and practice build confidence. Now you can boost your conversation confidence by preparing and practicing for your next engaging conversation.
Knowing that most people prefer interactive question and answer conversations far more than listening to a monologue is the first step. When it’s your turn to speak, and you want to continue a conversation, you need to say something that will lead the other person, or people, to keep talking. You have two options. You can either ask them a question, which invites them to speak, or you can make a statement of your own, which is intended to lead them to think of something they want to say in response.
Good questions can move your business, organization, career, and relationships forward. They squeeze additional value from your interactions and add up to a bank of valuable insights. You’ll have a clearer picture of colleagues and no longer waste time trying to figure out what they need or want.
Now, if you’re like most people, you’re probably wondering, “So, what questions should I ask?” This is where employing a FROG comes in. FROG is an acronym for Family – Recreation – Occupation – Goals. Remembering to employ FROG questions takes the guess work out of starting or continuing conversations. Besides, non-threatening, non-intrusive FROG conversation-starter questions are designed to invite and stimulate conversation.
You’ll never again annoy anyone by talking only about yourself. Instead, you’ll feel relaxed and confident because you’ve got a bank of questions proven to not only get the conversation started but keep it lively and engaging. You’ll come across as completely confident and interested in those you meet. Plus, your likeability factor instantly goes up because people are naturally attracted to those who pay attention and take an interest in them.
To get started building your rock-solid conversation confidence, simply take a few minutes to write down a few questions for each of the four FROG conversation topics before your next social opportunity. Then, jump into the conversation. Sample FROG conversation-starter question samples are below.
For more tips on how to build rock-solid conversation confidence to pursue your career goals, and enjoy the benefits of strong social connections contact Carole Pepe at Synergy Success at carole@synergysuccess.co or visit Synergy Success at www.synergysuccess.co (Yes. It’s really just .co and not .com) .
F – Family R – Recreation O- Occupation G- Goals
F- Family
- Where did you grow up?
- How is your family celebrating the holiday?
- How did your parents meet?
- How many brothers and sisters do you have?
R- Recreation
- What do you enjoy doing for fun?
- What did you think about (name of popular movie or sports team/event)?
- What’s your favorite football team?
O- Occupation
- How did you get into your line of work?
- What do you enjoy most about your work?
- What did you think you were going to be when you grew up?
G- Goals
- What’s your most challenging goal?
- If money and time were not a problem, what would you like to do?
- Would you do A or B or C?
- Which smart phone (or other trendy item) do you want to get next?
